Max, our handsome black labrador who was eleven and a half years old crossed to the other side of the Rainbow Bridge on 28 November, 2016. We miss him like crazy and it hasn’t yet fully sunk in.
There is no way we can make the pain go away, but we need to move on and learn to live with the beautiful memories. Every person has a different way of dealing with loss and sadness. I like to put my thoughts on paper. It helps me get things out of my system.
So here’s what I did..
If memories could bring us closer, if tears could bridge the gap
I’d cross the oceans to see you, in warm wet hugs we’d wrap
I opened my eyes to reality, to warm wet tears instead
The pain in my heart was real, as the voices in my head
Echoed, “No teary goodbyes were exchanged, no words of farewell spoken,
Would it have made it easier, if we had that chance?” I’m torn!
If I knew t’was the last time, that you’d look into my eyes
I’d have cradled your head upon my lap, stayed by you as you lay.
Were you in pain that fateful night, when the big brown clock struck three?
Sadly I’ll never know, would I? If you’d reached out to me.
With every breath you took you filled, my heart with so much love
You took a piece of my heart with you, the piece that belonged to you.
This may be my last one for a while now. Summer break is over and back to school. Looking forward to it and wishing the break was longer at the same time.
Anyway, this one is again by Zen Pencils (I know I have been on a Zen Pencils spree for a while now). This poem is by Kurt Vonnegut, and me being a dog lover, this looked absolutely perfect to me! Here goes!
We come into this world, blissfully unaware
Of man-made concepts, such as religion and race
We simply trust, a heart that truly cares
Oblivious to the differences, in the colour of their face.
We then grow to learn, of anger, spite and fear
Towards prople just like us, but from a different place
We end up being driven, by a destructive love of power
Distancing our souls, from the healing power of love.
If we could learn to loathe, and get consumed by hate
If we could based on background, so easily discriminate
Why not teach ourselves to trust, relearn how to love instead
And spread not war and hostility, but live in peace and harmony.
“I am burdened with what the Buddhists call the ‘monkey mind’ – the thoughts that swing from limb to limb, stopping only to scratch themselves, spit and howl.”
Prayer is our very own way of communicating our thoughts and intentions to the Universe. Doesn’t that mean that every thought that passes through our mind, even for a fleeting second, is a small prayer of its own? The rose bud that we watch blossom, the sunrise that we stop and admire, the family and friends that we love, the street dog that we wish had a home, are all thoughts that may cross our minds. Every such thought of love, gratitude, kindness and hope gets manifested into a prayer. The catch here, however, is that every thought of anger, hurt, guilt and fear also gets translated into a prayer. This is where arises the need to focus our thoughts on things that we wish to create and bring into our lives.
My mother once told me, “God responds to all your thoughts and words with one word – ‘Tathasthu’ or ‘So be it’.” It is one of those stories that has stayed with me ever since. In essence, just as a happy thought is reciprocated with a ‘Tathasthu’, when we worry about something, we are repeatedly sending out energy to the creation of something we don’t want.
Affirmations and positive self talk play an important role in sending out positive energy into the Universe which is reciprocated by responses to our prayers. Some thoughts are more focused and are repeated more often. Some thoughts are put into writing and read over and over again. These gain more strength as they are released into the Universe.
The first step here is to become aware of our thoughts, words and actions. Once we are aware, we can make a conscious effort to replace negative thoughts with positive ones, find solutions and lessons to be learnt from difficult situations and use positive words such as ‘I want to succeed’ instead of ‘I don’t want to fail’. Such kind of positive self talk brings more positive energy into our lives.
The reason some of our prayers aren’t answered is that we ourselves are unsure about what we want or don’t have enough faith in the Universe to make it happen. On one hand, we pray for something to happen and on the other hand we worry about it. We want to perform well in the exam, but what if the paper is difficult. We want to propose marriage but what if we are turned down. The keyword is ‘Total Surrender’. When we surrender ourselves completely, we can see miracles happening in front of us every day. At this stage, we offer gratitude and acknowledge the little miracles that happen in our lives. Try this out and witness miracles happening every day. Witness prayers being answered every day.
“Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe, and have faith that everything will work out for the best.”
“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.”
~ John Lennon
Whether we desire fame, wealth, success or the latest mobile phone, the goal towards which we direct all our thoughts and activities is happiness. We believe that achieving a level of fame or wealth or buying material goods would bring us happiness, that happiness is the ultimate purpose of human existence. Although this is true, happiness is sometimes viewed as a final state that can be reached by achieving some goal or attaining a material possession. However, in reality, happiness is all about being grateful for what we already have. The more gratitude that we allow to flow through us, greater the positive changes we would witness in our lives.
To show gratitude, we need to first understand the circumstances when we feel truly grateful. For us to experience gratefulness, two things need to come together. One, it has to be something that is valuable to us, and two, it has to be something that is given to us as a gift. When we realize these two things, gratitude and happiness, spontaneously rise in our hearts.
The more we offer gratitude, for the things we have, the more we end up having. If we focus instead, on what we don’t have, we will never have enough. The key here is to not experience moments in our lives when we are grateful but to live gratefully. How can we do that? By realizing that every moment given to us is a gift and that it is the most valuable thing that can be given to us. By realizing that every moment given to us has a million opportunities linked to it, which in itself is a gift.
Gratitude means noticing and appreciating the simple pleasures of life. It means counting our blessings and living life as if everything were a miracle. But once in a while, we are faced with something that is difficult. These trying times are a challenge to rise to the opportunity by learning something out of it.
Gratitude shifts our focus from what we lack to the abundance that is already present. It teaches us to not rush through life but to stop and appreciate everyone and everything that are a part of it. A grateful world is a world of joyful people. We all have the opportunity to be joyful by simply taking time out and appreciating the little things that make life beautiful. This is an opportunity given to us to transform the world into a much happier place filled with happier people. So why not take the gift of this moment and make the most of it?
“GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles and they can become your blessings.”
~ Author Unknown